why does my baby cry a lot

Have you ever imagined having a baby who will not hesitate to yell or scream when they get out of your arm? Baby cries when he's not held is not a new phenomenon to most parents. High-need babies will make you have different thoughts regarding your parenting and even how you relate with them. Their behavior may just be disgusting to some parents especially new parents who may not be familiar with such acts. What people seem not to understand is that at one time, they may have been the same. A good parent should know and understand how to handle high-need babies since they are just babies like any other. My Baby Cries When Not Held Is It Normal? High-need babies will probably want to be held in their parent arms every time. The soothing motion of their parents body is what they are accustomed to since the time they were in the womb. These babies will ultimately crave for touch or any contact with their parents body such as in your arms, at your breasts or even in bed. High-need babies will extract any physical contact from their caregivers. They will not only crave for touch but also motion. For instance, they will need to be moved in a slow constant motion whenever possible even when you are sitting down. New parents, who are not used to this, may find it a challenge to deal with their high-need babies. The parents bodies and arms are their crib. Therefore, these babies will want to be always held by their parents since they like to be up where action is or else they will keep on crying.


Important Notes: There are two main transitional measures you can try for your baby. First, you can curdle the baby until she gets so sleepy; this way they will not have the chance to protest on lying them down. Secondly, try to use a compromise kind of contact which makes it easier to adapt when you put them down from your arms. 1. Learn to Say No to Your Baby
When you feel like you have reached your wits end with your baby, you can send them to a park with the father or even a friend; this makes the baby not to get used to you so much. After these, you can then sit down with your journal. Through writing, you can examine your feelings and parenting. This helps you to focus on the good side of your baby rather than negatives. 2. Always Be Positive Some of the parents will have negative initial feelings with their high-need babies such as won t settle, doesn t sleep, or stubborn. they will not see any positive aspect that may be embedded in their child. As a parent, all you need to know is that your high-need baby will eventually be your best if you start focusing on the positive sides of them. 3. Be Flexible It is better to be flexible as you discover that there are more realistic expectations with your baby. You should contain yourself and go with the flow as the baby passes such stages which are eminent with every child. Don t waste time focusing on small issues since they can take care of themselves. 4. Do Not Compare If your child behaves differently from the rest, some parents will try to compare them with the other children.


This can whittle away any confidence in your child and you can take it as your parenting fault. When you avoid comparison trap, you can view your child objectively. It reduces the judgment aspect and you become more realistic with your child. Dear doctor; My sister has a two-months-old baby who cries a lot at night. Sometimes we try to breastfeed and sing for her in vain. We are finding it hard to sleep even for two hours. Is the child okay? Stavia Dear Stavia, Babies usually cry a lot in the night. Most of the time, one does not know a precise reason, because they are not able to tell by themselves as to what is the problem. But a number of causes have been postulated based on experiences and observations of people based on bringing up babies. Hunger is one main cause why a baby would cry at night. Babies have a small tummy and small intake and at 2 months she is just on milk. Just an hour or so after a feed, she may be hungry again, more so if she has passed stool or urine. This happens more in case of a baby who does not feed adequately. Rolling tongue over lips, trying to grope for breast if held are some signs that they need to feed. Usually after 3 or 4 months when the baby is put on solid feed, this problem stops. A baby may cry at night due to gas being formed in the stomach causing uncomfortable bloating or colicky. Being exclusively on milk, babies tend to get flatulence and at times also constipation which causes and aggravates the discomfort making them cry.


Warm fomentation over the abdomen with a soft lukewarm clean cloth helps in reducing the discomfort. If a baby has not passed stool for more than 2 days or so, a glycerine wick or a clean finger can be put in rectum lightly to evacuate the bowels. It is important to burp the baby after each feed to prevent flatulence. It is said that babies also cry if they are exhausted and wish to sleep. Try holding the baby close and say something soothingly. She may fall asleep instantly. New places, bright lights, loud noise and travelling may also cause a baby discomfort and they cry. For few months till after birth, the sleep/wake cycle of a child is not established as in adults. Therefore a child may feel alert and active at night when elders are tired and wishing to sleep. The crying may simply be a call to seek attention and demand for somebody to play and talk with them. Any acute sickness in a child like fever, sepsis, diarrhoea, vomiting, itching due to a mosquito bite can also make a baby cry. One has to be vigilant to look for signs of sickness if crying is excess. The best way to ensure that the baby does not cry much is to see that she is well fed, clean and dry, not moved out in crowded places much and never left alone. Just be patient with the baby. Dr Rachna Pande is a specialist in internal medicine at Ruhengeri Hospital

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