why does my ex boyfriend hate me
Some break-ups are amicable and others are so nass-teey. Some people stay friends after a breakup, and others want to forget they ever knew each other s name. Then there are exes that say you are going to remain friends, but then they start acting really cold and mean? S/he sees you and quickly walks away or ignores you altogether, or s/he talks to you (even sometimes initiates the conversation) only to start telling you how great his/her life is, now that you are not together. S/he goes out of his/her way to be affectionate and flirtatious with others when you are around and tells you about this or that great person s/he s seeing. S/he even talks about his/her (great) sex life and what this or that other woman/guy does with him/her. And whatever you say or do, all your best intentions are met with hostility, suspicion, resentment, irritation, anger, vindictiveness and worse. Why would someone who said s/he loved you now be hurting youб intentionally? Some exes act mean because they really want you gone. бIt s a passive aggressive behaviour where someone feels that if they are mean, cold and cruel to you, you ll get the message and leave them alone. This is especially the case if the person feels that you are in denial or are not accepting the fact that it is indeed over.
You trying to hang on to him/her or be a part of his/her life бirritates him/her. Your hanging around бirritates an ex even more if you are still professing your undying love and commitment. Why doesn t s/he just tell you to get lost instead of intentionally trying to hurt you? If the break-up was not nasty or if s/he broke up with you, s/he may be struggling with a combination of pity and guilt. S/he feels pity for you because you are a really good human being, but s/he just doesn t have those romantic or love feelings for you anymore. S/he feels guilty that s/he can not love you as you love him/her and that in some ways makes him/her a bad person. The combination of pity and guilt gets under his/her skin, literally, making him/her angry at you for making him/her feel this way. Your sad puppy-face doesn t help. Could it be that s/he still has feelings for you? It is possible that your ex is not over caring for you. His/her cold, mean and cruel behaviour is his/her way of trying to deal with the feelings s/he still has but does not want to feel.
You can usually tell an ex is dealing with conflicted feelings by how they go back and forth. One day they are so loving and kind and the next mean and cruel. Their reaction to you reflects what they feel at that time or on that day. But if the person is angry, mean and cruel to you all the time, with no loving and caring breaks in between, they want you gone, like really gone! Just a word of caution. The sweet-and-mean intervals may also be a result of Bipolar Disorder. If your ex has a history of Bipolar, it may just be that they can t help themselves. Does s/he have to hate you that much and be so cruel? A majority of relationships where an ex acts cruelly post-break-up were toxic to begin with. It s rare for a healthy relationship to go toxic and unhealthy post-break-up. For some exes, it s a power/control thing. If they can control how you feel, they control you. For others, they interpret your pain as you still care for him/her and that makes them feel good in a twisted way. If this is what is happening to you, and you are still trying to get your ex back, you need to ask yourself, Is this person treating me with love and respect? , Is this the kind of man or woman I want to spend the rest of my life with? , What kind of life would that be?
Should you then leave yourбex alone and move on? It depends. If this is your ex just being his/her usual mean and cruel self, it may be best for your own good to move away from the emotional abuse. But if your ex is a kind and caring person who would never act mean or cruel unless forced to, then you need to look at yourself. May be your refusal to accept reality or your your needy and clingy actions are forcing your ex to try to push you away. Work on changing you, and see if s/he starts warming up to you again. Sometimes it s him or her, but sometimes it s really you.
Since when does EVERYBODY hate their ex? I think this sort of thing is completely situational, depending on the context of the breakup. Sometimes it's a simple "I don't think we're right for each other" thing and things aren't too bad. Other times somebody cheats, or lies, or they have a big fight, or somebody has a total meltdown because they don't handle rejection well. Those breakups have more raw emotions attached to them, and that can easily turn to resentment. And I think the reason you've come to assume that EVERYBODY hates their ex is because most breakups are messy.
And you are also assuming that all relationships run on the purest love. That is also false. There are a million different reasons people get into relationships, and love is not always the top contender. To answer your question, yes, love is a lie in MANY cases. Also, it is possible to both fall in and out of love. Just because you love someone at one time doesn't mean you will always love them. I completely agree with you, as I'm still friends with my ex-girlfriend. We had some difficulties and decided to end things amicably, partially because we had to (we had been living together during the school year) and despite knowing it wouldn't work out, we still WANTED to remain friends. We went on a temporary break for a time to try and fix some of the problems, but we knew it wasn't going to work. Sometimes you just know and the best thing to do is part of the best terms possible. It's not impossible to stay friends with your ex, but it requires a lot of work. It was definitely really awkward for a while, as we had to change a lot of aspects about our lives, but it is possible.
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