why does my 9 month old wake up all night
I can understand how you are feeling, sleep deprivation is the worst things a person and family can go through, especially with an older child to look after in the day - so don t be too hard on yourself. You are not a bad mum for getting cranky and upset For 4 months now, my 8. 5 month old has woke most nights every 45 mins, sometimes I get 2 hours sleep in a row if I am lucky He started a few times a night (after sleeping through mostly for first 5 months ), to every hour or so. A couple of months ago I thought I was going to break down. But you just go on like you have to, and believe me it gets better - I think your body starts to adjust to the new sleep pattern hubby feeds (very occasionally) from bottle in bed lying down just like I would breastfeeding as that comforts DS back to sleep for the times that I really need a break. I wanted to give you other options to controlled crying techniques- as it is not for everyone. A book called Helping your baby to sleep by Gethin /Macgregor really helped me. It doesn t claim to get your baby to sleep like most other sleep training, because in reality it is not how babies work But the book did help ME in dealing with MY issues about it. If you feel better then you can deal with your DS better (The nurse at the clinic gave me 2 books, this one, and one with a controlled crying technique, I read both and I chose this the more natural techniquies - I am so glad that I had a nurse that gave me information on two different techniques, because the way I was feeling at the time I may have resorted to controlled crying when everything in my body tells me that it is wrong - I think too many nurses prescribe controlled crying at desperate times, and it is just wrong to do that ) We haved managed to get DS in a couple of daytime sleeps now (he used to have 5 min catnaps ).
It is hard with a toddler I know But hubby took a week off work to look after DD while I got DS in a daytime sleep routine. It was essential for my sanity We don t have any family support here as we moved interstate - but if you can get help, or hubby can take time off to try and establish yourself some routines then that really helps you to get on top of dealing with things. Cheers, CASE STUDY: 9 month old, frequent night waking *this is a case study from a real-life mum who reached out for help. We share our case studiesPin the hope it may help other mums who are in the same, or similar, situations. Not everyone parents in the same way, so please do not judge, criticize or demean these mothers and the parenting choices they have made in the best interests of their babies and their families.
P Baby Mother Room : Dark, white noise, sleeping bag Naps : 9-10:30 AM, 1-2:30 PM, 5-5:30PPM Case Thomas was an okay sleeper early on. Did the "usual" things babies do at each age - catnapping from around 3 months onwards, then waking quite frequently in the night once he hit 4 months. His mum Layla did some self-settling work with Thomas and it initiallyPhelped his waking at night and his catnapping during the day. Then around 7 months old Thomas started waking more at night again. 7 months old:PThomas started waking more frequently in the night, after going from 1 night wake to 2 or 3. His mum was confused because he had been able to self-settle for a while. She would give him a bottle for one of his wakes and would try to resettle for the others, which would end up sometimes a very long time. Some nights Thomas would be awake for an hour or more. He continued to sleep well in the day. 8 months: Thomas was STILL waking a lot at night and started resisting settling, getting upset and being really difficult to get back to sleep. After receiving some poor advice that babies this age only wake in the night out of habit, Layla decided to try some "sleep training" with him.
She used a method where she would verbally check in with him to reassure him of her presence, but essentially leaving him to go back to sleep on his own. He didn't. After several nights of failed attempts and Thomas (and Layla) getting very upset and refusing to go back to sleep, Layla gavePup the sleep training attempts. 9 months: A very frustrated and exhausted Layla gotPin touch with us about her baby's night wakes. The first thing we did was look at his total day sleep hours and quickly ascertained that he wasPhaving too much sleep in the day for his age and too late in the day to promote a good night sleep, thus resulting in him being wakeful in the night. Layla gotPThomas started right away on our Pand after sixPdays, he hadPstopped waking in the night altogether. Conclusion Thomas had started waking more in the night because his daytime sleep needs had changed as he got older and Layla was still giving him more naps than he needed. He was having a bit too much day sleep and his last nap was happening too close to bedtime, meaning Thomas genuinely wasn't tired enough to sleep well at night. He was waking because he simply needed some awake time. P When Layla was trying to do sleep training with him, it wasn't working because he wasn't ready to go back to sleep, not because he was being "naughty" or resisting the sleep training.
PYou should NEVER try toPsleep train or teach a baby to self-settle unless they're established in a good sleeping pattern first and are genuinely ready for sleep at the times they are being put to bed. So so often night waking is a result of poor daytime routine - too much or too little day sleep, naps that are too late in the day or too long or at the wrong times. If you're working to reduce night wakes with your little one you absolutely need to make sure their night waking isn't as a result of their day sleeps, which is completely out of their control and you won't be able to "fix" their nights until you first address their naps. After a wee while on our Sleep Program, Thomas was napping at the best times and for the right amount during the day, meaning he quite quickly consolidated his nighttime sleep and didn't need to stay awake in the night anymore. Layla was astounded with the result just by changing the times and lengths of his nap and that this could be achieved in such a short time with no need for any actual sleep training! Our remove all the guesswork about your baby's sleep and ensure they are hitting the right nap times and lengths. For more baby sleep advice, read and
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