why does it always happen to me quotes
There is much asked and only so much I think I can or should answer, and so, in this post I would like to give a few thoughts on what seemed to be the overwhelming question: ÁWHY? Á
And here is the best answer I can give: Because. Because sometimes, life is damned unfair. Because sometimes, we lose people we love and it hurts deeply. Because sometimes, as the writer, you have to put your characters in harmÁs way and be willing to go there if it is the right thing for your book, even if it grieves you to do it. Because sometimes there arenÁt really answers to our questions except for what we discover, the meaning we assign them over time. Because acceptance is yet another of lifeÁs ÁhereÁs a side of hurtÁ lessons and it is never truly acceptance unless it has cost us something to arrive there. Why, you ask? Because, I answer. Inadequate yet true. Why Do These Things Happen To Me? Whether you think you can or think you can't, you're right. - Henry Ford Someone said to me the other day, "All my boyfriends end up cheating on me.
I can't have a good relationship. I just need to accept this and move on. " I was listening to a really good presentation by Bill Harris of Centrepointe Research yesterday which discussed this very situation. As Bill Harris talks about in his presention, things happen to you because of your core beliefs. One of this person's core beliefs about life is, ÁI canÁt have a good relationship and all my boyfriends cheat on meÁ. When you have such a strong belief, the brain will go to incredible lengths to make sure that youÁre right. It doesn't matter whether it has to do with relationships, or whether you're always in debt or you find that people don't treat you with respect, whatever you have a strong belief about, you will create it in your life. 1. You will only be attracted to what you believe If you believe you can't have a good relationship, the only people you will find attractive are those who will make your belief true. So, the only people youÁll be interested in are those who for whatever reason, are unable to have a healthy relationship right now.
ThatÁs the type of person who will also be attracted to you. ItÁs like a self fulfilling prophecy. ThatÁs what you believe, so thatÁs who you attract. If you find that you're repeating a pattern over and over again, it's time to ask yourself what you truly believe. 2. You will be hyper sensitive to any signs or observations You're going to be constantly on the lookout for any signs from the other person that theyÁre not in a healthy frame of mind or that theyÁre cheating on you. YouÁll see exactly what youÁre looking for whether itÁs really there or not. There's a quote that says, Áwhat you see depends on what youÁre looking forÁ. Your brain will see signs because thatÁs what itÁs looking for. They could say something really simple like, Áhow are you feeling today? Á and youÁll start to wonder, "What do they mean by that, is this a sign? Okay, itÁs happening all over again. Why do these things happen to me? Á That's a really simplistic example but you get what I mean.
You're going to be overly sensitive to everything. You will find exactly what youÁre looking for so that your core belief can be validated once more. 3. You will unconsciously sabotage yourself Your brain desparately wants to be able to say, ÁSee, IÁm right. I canÁt have a good relationship and people cheat on me. Á and will do whatever it takes to make that true. So, you will end up taking actions, whether you're consciously aware of it or not, that will push the other person away just so that your core belief always remains true. Why Do I Have This Belief? If you ask yourself, Áwhy do I have this belief? Á The answer is to keep yourself safe. If you have this thought, then it protects you from being hurt and the pain from any more failed relationships. Your past experience has led you to believe this thought and itÁs needed to keep you safe. Forget about whether your belief is true or not and just ask yourself, Ádoes this belief help me or hinder me to get what I want? Á If youÁre honest, youÁre going to admit, it hinders you.
DoesnÁt matter if your core belief is true or not, this thought is getting in the way of you achieving what you truly desire. If you read my article, you'll see that this is a perfect example of mirroring. All your relationships are mirroring exactly back to you your core belief, ÁI canÁt have a good relationship and people cheat on me. Á They're showing you what you believe about yourself and the world. Change your belief and they will mirror something completely different. As long as you hold on to your belief, youÁre going to experience the same situation over and over again. Ask yourself, how important is it for you to be right. All you have to do is change this belief you have and youÁll change your life. It may not be easy to think differently after all this time but awareness of what youÁre doing to create the situation is the first step. So, if you're still with me, next I'm going to talk about. You can change those thought processes that just aren't working for you anymore.
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