why do women not like sex as much as men
Time and again, women-centric fashion and lifestyle magazines keep reiterating how women want just as much sex as men do; how they are just as promiscuous as men and how women are just as psyched about getting some as men. Truth is, in the real world, that hardly ever plays out to be the case. And I know I speak for most men reading this. Just so you know, our sympathies are with you. But, there are absolutely legit reasons why your woman is not feeling anything down there and no, it has nothing to do with the love dying out. So, before you give up on her and start looking outside of it for some physical solace, read on. 1. Women are emotional creatures. Yes, occasionally, you will come across a liberal soul who just wants the fun, no strings. But, even then, there are emotions at play that you may not comprehend. Her happiness, her sorrow, her feelings for and towards you are major factors in determining whether or not she wants to have sex with you right now. What might seem like a get in; get out deal is a lot like devotion for her. If she likes you even a little bit, she will be up for some fun in the sack; if not, you re knocking on the wrong door. 2. Maybe you re hoping to turn this date into a steamy night now that both of you are on the same page and are up for having sex. But, here s the thing; even if she s up for the fun and the sex, she isn t up for it just yet.
Why? She needs the time to connect with you better, to know you and to know if she will be comfortable with you. Yes, this could mean that the night would end with dinner and a cute peck on the cheek but, nothing more. Hold off till the next date maybe or till she is comfortable enough in her skin to lead the way herself. Forcing her will not speed it up for you, in case you re wondering and no, ultimatums never work on women. We invented that shit! 3. Anger, stress, disappointment, a tiring day at work, frustration these things affect your girl like nothing you know! Sure, for you, all this goes away the minute you step into the confines of your personal space, unwind with a beer and a sensual massage from bae which turns into sex. For her, these feelings, thoughts and situations overwhelm and become her. Yes, you may offer to cook tonight, give her a massage and ever rub her feet; just don t expect it to turn into sex unless she wants it to. Because then, she s just going to have one more reason to be angry and that s not going to help. 4. Contrary to what the pseudo-feminists may say, it s true women are not physically as strong as men. By the end of the day, she is spent and tired and withdrawn and you can t blame her!
The reason is pretty simple; because she is mentally too strong for you to handle, all of her energies go in micro-managing your lives and thinking up every possible scenario real or unreal and deducing every possible outcome in nano-seconds. By the time she s done, your woman is too
to even think about foreplay! 5. If she is feeling less than pretty, fat, ugly, smelly, unattractive, bloated, unappreciated or just self-loathing, she is not going to want to strip down naked to be pleasured by you. She doesn t think she deserves it. In fact, it s probably one of those days where she ll quickly just pull on her most unattractive pyjamas over an extra loose t-shirt while avoiding any eye contact with the mirror. Don t push for sex; she might just cry and you won t like it. 6. Just don t ask her to explain the moods because it s one of those things that have no words. It just is, you know. And no, don t keep pressing to find a word, either because then, she ll give you too many words to deal with and you re probably going to bed hungry and dissatisfied, anyway. Just know that the mood is real; the feelings are real and so is the fact that you re not getting any sex tonight. 7. 3. Women's sexual turn-ons are more complicated than men's. What turns women on? Not even women always seem to know.
Northwestern University researcher Meredith Chivers and colleagues showed erotic films to gay and straight men and women. They asked them about their level of sexual arousal, and also measured their actual level of arousal through devices attached to their genitals. For men, the results were predictable: Straight men said they were more turned on by depictions of male-female sex and female-female sex, and the measuring devices backed up their claims. Gay men said they were turned on by male-male sex, and again the devices backed them up. For women, the results were more surprising. Straight women, for example, said they were more turned on by male-female sex. But genitally they showed about the same reaction to male-female, male-male, and female-female sex. "Men are very rigid and specific about who they become aroused by, who they want to have sex with, who they fall in love with," says J. Michael Bailey. He is a Northwestern University sex researcher and co-author with Chivers on the study. By contrast, women may be more open to same-sex thanks to their less-directed sex drives, Bailey says. "Women probably have the capacity to become sexually interested in and fall in love with their own sex more than men do," Bailey says. "They won't necessarily do it, but they have the capacity. " Bailey's idea is backed up by studies showing that homosexuality is a more fluid state among women than men.
In another broad review of studies, Baumeister found many more lesbians reported recent sex with men, when compared to gay men's reports of sex with women. Women were also more likely than men to call themselves bisexual, and to report their as a matter of choice. 4. Women's sex drives are more influenced by social and cultural factors. In his review, Baumeister found studies showing many ways in which women's sexual attitudes, practices, and desires were more influenced by their environment than men: Women's attitudes toward (and willingness to perform) various sexual practices are more likely than men's to change over time. Women who regularly attend church are less likely to have permissive attitudes about sex. Men do not show this connection between church attendance and sex attitudes. Women are more influenced by the attitudes of their peer group in their decisions about sex. Women with higher education levels were more likely to have performed a wider variety of sexual practices (such as oral sex); education made less of a difference with men. Women were more likely than men to show inconsistency between their expressed values about sexual activities such as premarital sex and their actual behavior.
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