why do we have to struggle in life

My beloved fatherБs favorite line was БAlways look at the glass half full instead of half empty. Б If we believe that we are products of our childhoods, then this tenet holds considerable weight in the way I have lived my life as a survivor, thriver and warrior. My father was a Holocaust survivor. His words of
kept him going during his five years in DachauБs Camp. He passed his own personal lessons down to help me navigate my own tumultuous life experiences. The power of is at the foundation of our survival. Some of my favorite psychologists, many of whom were rooted in the realm of Psychology, include, Abraham Maslow, Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, Martin Seligman, Eric Erickson and Carl Rogers. These individuals advocated positive thinking as a path to wholeness by encouraging individuals to focus on their personal strengths and virtues, and offering encouragement for others to do the same. In essence, it is about experiencing and portraying a positive attitude. Recently, I read a book called by Paul Pearsall, Ph. D. , a clinical neuropsychologist who opened the worldБs first clinic. Pearsall wrote about being inspired to through adversity, and like me, he believes that we can become and transformed by difficulty. This same is at the heart of my workshops, where I empower others to write memoirs for transformation and empowerment. It is also the subject of my recent doctoral dissertation. When faced with adversity, once you pass the survival phase, you move into the thriving phase, which pushes you towards the next level of growth and transformation, and ultimately to a sense of empowerment. This process is often seen amongst cancer survivors or those faced with situations such as. Pearsall wisely states, БThrivers share their experiences not from the perspective of БLook what I didБ but from the orientation of БDonБt worry. Look at what you can do. Б In this way, they serve as role models for others who are struggling. Their mission, whether conscious or, is to spread the energy of positive thoughts and healing. We cannot underestimate the importance of surrounding ourselves with positive thinkers and good relationships, living in a thriving, embracing each day, and working on yourself by what brings you joy, what makes your heart sing, and what emotional triggers set you down a negative or unhealthy path.


The reason Pearsall calls the book The Beethoven Factor is because, in listening to BeethovenБs music, (being cognizant that he was deaf), you can hear the ebb and flow of the emotions that reflect the lives we live. The music serves as a reminder that these ebbs and flows are normal and we need to accept them. In other words, we must walk through the doors of both positive and negative experiences without letting negative experiences overpower us. Instead, they should empower us. Sometimes, the sheer contrast of positive and negative offers the needed perspective. Those who are unable to allow the positive overpower the negative, more often seem laden and unable to let go. In her article Leslie Becker-Phelps writes about surviving after an injury. She recommends focusing on thinking about who you can depend on, not those who disappointed you. Remember that there is always someone in worse pain; accept that pain is temporary and will pass. She also reminds us that kindness to others can make you feel better in the course of our struggles, or when we are overwhelmed by lifeБs challenges. While it is not always easy maintaining a positive attitude, keeping a reminder in your living space is important. As someone who turns to writing during tumultuous times and suggests the same to others, I have a saying by Hemingway in my writing studio that says, БWe become stronger at the broken places. Б Across the centuries, this sentiment has been a driving force for many writers and poets. Those who do not follow these basic tenets, all of which lead to, may find themselves struggling unnecessarily through all of lifeБs turbulence and those hardships and experiences we encounter, whether large or small. , life and lust I am a believer in God. When you die something has to happen. I believe I am going to see Him or Her for being a morally sound family loving, good human. I have married for love and adopted kids for love.


I always have a job and I am a good dad. That's it, right? I am a good person. Now here is my question: Why is it that no matter how hard I try to provide for my family that I am always struggling to get ahead? I've heard that God has a plan for all of us. Could it be that my role is to be the toy that always gets thrown a curve ball or the pawn that is always used to help someone other than me? If this is the case, then please I pray for a signal, perhaps a lightning bolt to remind me of my place. God allows us to go through difficult situations for a variety of reasons: to discipline us for sinning, to keep us from sinning, for spiritual growth, for rejecting God, and for God s glory. We would encourage you to readP But there is also another reason. Read the following passages from the Bible. The curse of the LORD is on the house of the wicked, but He blesses the dwelling of the righteous. PProverbs 3:33 (NAS95S) The LORD will not allow the righteous to hunger, but He will reject the craving of the wicked. PProverbs 10:3 (NAS95S) What the wicked fears will come upon him, but the desire of the righteous will be granted. PProverbs 10:24 (NAS95S) The hope of the righteous is gladness, but the expectation of the wicked perishes. PProverbs 10:28 (NAS95S) Notice the contrast between the wicked and the righteous. The wicked are not blessed as much as the righteous. So who is a wicked person? All of us! We were all born wicked. We were all born as sinners into this world. Behold, I was brought forth in iniquity, and in sin my mother conceived me. PPs 51:5 (NAS95S) We may not like these statements but that does not change God s view of us. We entered this world as sinners (Romans 5:8) and we have proven that we are sinners by the fact that we do sin (James 1:13-16). Unfortunately, it is obvious that God does not consider sinners to be good people since He calls us sinners. Romans 3:12 summarizes the truth that from a spiritual perspective we are spiritually bankrupt. ALL HAVE TURNED ASIDE, TOGETHER THEY HAVE BECOME USELESS; THERE IS NONE WHO DOES GOOD, THERE IS NOT EVEN ONE. PRom 3:12 (NAS95S) When we think we have done something good we deceive ourselves.


Yes, we may think we have done something good from our perspective, but that is not true from God s perspective. Our good deeds are not as holy as God is holy. God is holy and we are not. Also, God refers to our good deeds as filthy rags. But we are all as an unclean thing, and all our righteousness are as filthy rags; and we all do fade as a leaf; and our iniquities, like the wind, have taken us away. PIsa 64:6 (KJV) Being a morally decent, family loving, good, man who married for love and who works hard to provide for his family is not the basis for salvation. That will not gain us admission into heaven or favor with God. God tells us that everyone has sinned (Romans 3:23). We cannot do anything to earn our way into heaven or into God s favor. Listen to Ephesians 2:8-9, For by grace you have been saved through faith; and that not of yourselves, it is the gift of God; not as a result of works, so that no one may boast. PEph 2:8-9 (NAS95S) We entered this world as one who rejects God. We were not holy. We are all wicked. This means that God is not spiritually blessing us as the four passages above from Proverbs stated. Now who are the righteous in the four verses above? The answer is that a righteous man is one who believes in Jesus Christ and obeys Him. God Himself, Jesus Christ, died a physical death on a cross in order to forgive your sins and the sins of everyone else. Notice what John the Baptist said about Jesus Christ in the following verse. The next day he saw Jesus coming to him and said, Behold, the Lamb of God who takes away the sin of the world! John 1:29 (NAS95S) This is where we must start if we desire to be righteous persons. A righteous person is one who believes Jesus is God and has asked God to forgive his or her sins and to start changing him or her. God wants us to be sorry for all that we have done and to seek His forgiveness. To do otherwise is to be arrogant and to tell God that we are holy and He is wrong. Please read. It will change your life if you ask to God to forgive your sins and take over your life. May God bless you as you study.

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