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f you ever fear youre losing perspective on what matters most, I recommend searching a favourite social network for phrases such as Whole Foods has run out of and Whole Foods doesnt have There, youll find angry customers of the upmarket US grocery chain, or, who have
really lost perspective. Disappointing that my local Whole Foods doesnt have purple carrots or blue potatoes, reads one tweet in a recent BuzzFeed list,. Yet I mock knowing that Im similarly guilty too easily provoked whenever my life, so comically privileged by most yardsticks, doesnt measure up. But perhaps we shouldnt feel so bad about feeling bad: thanks to an oddity of the mind, theres a good reason minor setbacks can cause more long-term distress than bigger ones.

This anomaly is known as the (I could explain why, but your time, like the supply of purple carrots, is limited) and was first described 10 years ago, in a paper entitled, by the psychologist Dan Gilbert and colleagues. When truly bad things happen, they cross a threshold, triggering mechanisms that help us to recover. To use one of Gilberts examples: if a woman discovers her husband has been having an affair, she may draw on all her powers of rationalisation, convincing herself it was something he had to get out of his system, or that its a crisis from which theyll emerge stronger. By contrast, if his only fault is leaving dirty dishes in the sink, her cognitive defences wont kick in.

So her anger at the lesser failing may bubble longer. This isnt how we think suffering works: we assume that the bigger the trauma, the more enduring the distress. But the Gilbert study shows that assumption is often false: participants recovered faster from an insult directed at themselves (a relatively major event) than from witnessing one directed at someone else. People severely affected by terror attacks, some experts argue, can suffer less long-term trauma than those less affected. The pattern recurs in many corners of life. A severe pain propels you to the doctors where a dull pain might not. , compared with less painful ones, precisely because theyre worried theyll chicken out.

Gilbert et al even wonder if, after driving to a party, you might be safer getting trollied on martinis than sipping two glasses of wine. In the latter case, its still risky to drive home, but your friends are less likely to insist you dont. So while its silly to let trivialities infuriate us, the region-beta paradox reminds us that distress doesnt obey simple rules; theres no purely objective standard from which its possible to judge anyones reaction, to anything, as being over the top. All pain hurts. Or, : The worst thing thats ever happened to you is the worst thing thats ever happened to you. Besides, the region-beta paradox suggests, it might not even be the worst thing that ends up hurting longest.

Follow Oliver on. This question is pretty vague. It depends on your situation. If you have a lot of stressful things in your life, then yes but if your life is going steady, then perhaps not. If you're concerned about this though, you should go see your GP who will not only have your records but are also licensed and should know you pretty well, health wise. Your GP will be able to tell you if you should go to any self-help classes, give you self-help information and give you any tests that you may require. Otherwise, it could just be down to stress which again, they would be able to advise you on how to cope.

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